Today I had a vivid flash of memory. Happens to all of
us, triggered by something which brings up emotion. Maybe I’ve started paying
more attention to life’s details because of writing, and I welcome and build
on these vivid flashes rather than dismiss them.
This is what happened. Last night I attended my writers’
club Christmas gathering. This get together is always more relaxed than our
normal critique sessions. As the evening began the editor who leads our group asked
each person to state their goals for the coming year. After listening, she
added her perceptions and pointed us in a direction based upon our goals.
This meeting was in a member’s home, not in our standard
conference room at the library. We had festive food, not our usual sparse
basics of a pot heating water for instant coffee. People prepared a favorite
recipe to share, so we weren’t stuck passing around the never-ending bag of
leftover Halloween candy.
I had helped myself to a piece of apple pie and chex mix. My
sweet and salty belly was fat and happy. Then I smelled coffee, good coffee.
The gal next to me was sipping hers, saying, “I’ll probably be up half the
night, but this coffee is worth it.” I went into the kitchen to get a cup and
found it was coffee made in a French press.
I’d only had French press coffee two other times. Once in a
restaurant, which prompted me to buy a French press carafe. I only
used it once. It did make great coffee but it reminded me of the old
percolator we’d used when we camped. It was a mess to clean up, not nearly as
effortless as my Keurig, with its disposable pods.
Today while at home I was getting ready to
finish reading a book and write a review. As I settled in I thought, Boy, a cup of that French press coffee would
taste great.
I contemplated heating the water in the microwave, with the
least effort and mess possible, but then thought, Oh, come on, Jean, at least you can use your teakettle. I dusted
off the kettle because it hadn’t been used in quite some time. I emptied the
old water, refilled and turned on the burner under the kettle while I scooped
grounds into the French press.
In a minute or so, I heard the whistle of the teakettle. That’s..when..the..memory..struck..me.
The sound took me back instantly through time and place, as though I was standing in
Mom’s kitchen.
Mom did not enjoy coffee, but loved her Lipton’s with a
spoonful of sugar and a douse of milk. I remember her teakettle vividly;
stainless steel, Revere Ware with a copper bottom and black plastic whistle
spout. The sound would start out as a low rumble but in less than two seconds it became a steaming shrill scream demanding immediate removal from the burner.
As my parents declined from age and Alzheimer's, and she lost the ability to manage
food and keep her kitchen clean, the teabags became a source of angst between
Mom and me.
Excerpt from Alzheimer’s
Daughter:
This morning Mom called
saying she was sick. Even though digestive issues often plagued her, it was
unlike her to ever call me to complain. I took her bananas, 7-UP and
applesauce.
When
I arrived I found her alone, sitting feebly on the couch, hair uncombed, in her
bathrobe. I made warm lime Jello for her to sip. She made this for Annette and
me when we were sick as youngsters to give comfort, calories and a bit of
substance to a sick stomach.
While
she sipped I went to the kitchen and cleaned moldy food out of the refrigerator
and scrubbed the kitchen counter and sink with Clorox. I told her she must not
keep leftovers too long in the refrigerator nor leave them out on the counter
to spoil.
She’s a tea drinker, so
she keeps all used teabags in overflowing jars, rotting with cloudy green mold,
on the counter, intending to dig them into the soil around her rose bushes as
fertilizer. I told her these putrid tea bags grow bacteria. She became angry,
trying to get to her feet, saying, “Don’t throw my teabags away. They keep my
roses blooming.” I quietly ignored her and dumped them in the trash, taking the
trash to the garage, hoping she’d forget about the rancid bags. I should have
dug them in around the rose bushes for her.
Maybe being a lifelong tea drinker is part of what kept Mom
physically healthy to nearly 90. However, I often thought the milk in Mom’s tea was the
only calcium she consumed.
Not only did Mom enjoy her own tea, but every evening after
supper she’d offer endless cups of tea to my dad. It was her act of love toward
him. She’d give him this warm cup of sweetness and they’d sit, sip and refill
until her head nodded and she’d doze while stiches dropped from her knitting
needles and he’d watch the 11:00 p.m. news. Then he’d gently wake her to go to
bed.
As I sit at my computer sipping a cup of French press
coffee, I’m warmed by the bubbling of many memories stirred by the whistling
teakettle. I’ll be sure to offer my hubby some French press coffee tonight.
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