Alzheimer's Daughter

The Story

Alzheimer’s Daughter introduces the reader to my healthy parents, Ed and Ibby, years before their diagnosis, then recounts painful details as our roles reversed and I became my parents’ parent.


Their disease started as translucent, confused thoughts and ended in a locked memory care unit after a near decade of descent into the opaque world of Alzheimer's.

I began writing Alzheimer’s Daughter one week after my mother's death––when I was stunned, realizing Dad had no memory of her or their 66-year marriage.

I write to pay tribute to the undying spirit at Ed and Ibby's core, and with the hope that the story of their parallel decline might be helpful to others.

Wednesday, March 31, 2021

Fran Tilton Shelton Shares Her Story in Her Memoir, "No Winter Lasts Forever"

I found Fran Tilton Shelton's beautiful memoir in the top 100 on Amazon. If you are a spouse caregiver, this is a must read. Fran honors her husband, while revealing blunt honesty about his progression into Alzheimer's. 

Please join AlzAuthors in welcoming Fran Tilton Shelton, author of No Winter Lasts Forever; a memoir of loving Bob and loathing Alzheimer's.

 


Fran shares:

The journey with loved ones who have Alzheimer’s is grueling and all consuming-- physically, emotionally, socially, and spiritually. I quickly recognized that I wanted people to not only know about this unique journey and I also wanted people to know and remember aspects of Bob in his prime.

You may read the entire post here.


Wednesday, March 10, 2021

Judith Shone Writes Her Second Memoir About Caring for Her Love in "Did you Hide the Cookies?"

Please join me in welcoming back this week's featured AlzAuthor, Judith Shone,  with her second book, Did You Hide the Cookies?  The honesty Judith conveys in both books bring such comfort to all who are living the spouse/caregiver life.

 

Judith shares about her love:

I‘ve been his caregiver, his teacher, his mother, his protector, his friend, his cook, his housekeeper, his manager, his coach, his taxi driver, his secretary and confidant, and his partner.  I have felt sorrow and joy, desperation and relief, anger and love, all related to both our behaviours, our responses and the challenges we have passed through together.


You may read the entire post here.

Wednesday, February 24, 2021

Powerful Memoir by Deborah J. Cohan "Welcome to Wherever We Are" Deals with Emotional and Verbal Abuse and Caregiving for a Loved One with Dementia

I was so excited to connect with this week's featured AlzAuthor, Deborah J. Cohan, a professor of sociology and former counselor, author of the memoir Welcome to Wherever We Aresubtitled A Memoir of Family Caregiving and Redemption. Her book addresses difficult, yet important topics. 

Deborah writes: 

The book is a braided memoir detailing my role as a caregiver for my father who had been emotionally and verbally abusive to my mother and to me. So, really, I was writing about two weighty experiences that feel riddled with confusion---domestic violence and caregiving for a loved one with dementia. Both topics---abuse and dementia---are intense because they each carry so much stigma, shame, secrecy, and silence. The book is a meditation on what we hold onto, what we let go, how we remember others and how we’re remembered.


You may read the entire post on AlzAuthors.com by clicking here.

Wednesday, February 10, 2021

Garland Creighton Provides a Transparent Glimpse Into Fears and Triumphs of Alzheimer’s Caregiving

I'm so thankful to have encountered Garland Creighton and his memoir of caregiving for both parents. AlzAuthors features Coming Alongside this week.

Garland writes: 

Caregiving is not a spectator sport, you have to roll up your sleeves and get dirty - - - which is why I wrote Coming Alongside. It’s a transparent, engaging, and humorous glimpse into the joy, trials, and triumphs of life as a caregiver. The book provides perspective for the uninitiated and a front row seat for the unfamiliar.

You may read the entire post here


Saturday, January 23, 2021

You'll love LaBena Fleming’s Touching Memoir, I Love You Always

I'm so thrilled to find this lovely book by a Cleveland, Ohio author, LaBena Fleming; I Love You AlwaysIf you are a daughter caring for a mother, this is a detailed look at the progression of Alzheimer's and also gives honest insights into the emotions of the daughter-caregiver. I'm so pleased to meet you, LaBena. 

LaBena writes: 
My book tells the story of a woman who, although diagnosed with dementia, was determined to live until the age of ninety.  It is also a love story, showing what we can accomplish when we step outside of ourselves and work together for what’s in the best interest of our loved ones.  It serves as a resource, sharing valuable caregiver tips as well as other practical lessons learned along the way.  In addition, it is a message of faith.  I can’t imagine any journey that is more harrowing than that of dementia, and I don’t know how people navigate their way through it without a strong anchor.  My anchor was God.  Words of encouragement, faith, and hope are dispersed throughout the book by the inclusion of favored scriptures.

You may read the entire post here.

Wednesday, December 9, 2020

Welcome Pat MacEnulty, author of Wait Until Tomorrow

Dear Friends, 

I found Pat MacEnulty's lovely book recently when searching the top 100 books in Alzheimer's and dementia on Amazon. After coming to know Pat through some exchanged emails, she agreed to write a post for AlzAuthors about her new memoir Wait Until Tomorrow.

 

Pat shares: 
When my mother could no longer live on her own, I took her away from the fulfilling life she loved and brought her to live in a facility near me. It was heartbreaking for both of us. Seeing her bright light flicker and fade, listening to her groan in pain as she tried to walk, and sensing her confusion when she forgot where she was depleted my spirit. My outlet was writing.

Please read the entire post here

Thank you, Pat, for writing this beautiful book and sharing it with others currently on the path, caring for a loved one with Alzheimer's or other dementia diseases.

Wednesday, November 25, 2020

Kathy Flora Writes a New Memoir About Caring for Her Mother Called "Walking Momma Home"

While searching the top 100 books in Alzheimer's on Amazon recently, I found Kathy Flora, author of Walking My Momma Home: Finding Love, Grace and Acceptance Through the Labyrinth of Dementia.

I reached out to Kathy and she agreed to write a post for AlzAuthors. During our conversations, I learned more about her story. What stands out in my mind is that while recovering from illness, working full time, and balancing her own family life, Kathy completed a series of moves for her mother's well-being and eventually found peace in their journey. She shares her story with you.


Kathy writes: 

Walking My Momma Home is a memoir of my mom and me. It is about love, hope, uncertainty, role reversal, courage, and the raw humanity in Mom’s experience of losing herself to this disease. And it is about the hard decisions, conflicts, relationship balancing, and soul-stretching that being her caregiver required. Our story is one of love and laughter, tears and terrors, of opening hearts, and deep emotional healing. Finally, it is a story of God’s loving patience as He guided me to grow into the woman He intends me to be through caring for my mom.


Please read the entire post here.