Alzheimer's Daughter

The Story

Alzheimer’s Daughter introduces the reader to my healthy parents, Ed and Ibby, years before their diagnosis, then recounts painful details as our roles reversed and I became my parents’ parent.


Their disease started as translucent, confused thoughts and ended in a locked memory care unit after a near decade of descent into the opaque world of Alzheimer's.

I began writing Alzheimer’s Daughter one week after my mother's death––when I was stunned, realizing Dad had no memory of her or their 66-year marriage.

I write to pay tribute to the undying spirit at Ed and Ibby's core, and with the hope that the story of their parallel decline might be helpful to others.

Wednesday, May 12, 2021

You’ll Love Rebecca Warner’s New Novel, My Dad My Dog

If you happen to be a caregiver to an ailing parent and also a pet-parent to a beloved, aging dog, I highly recommend you read Rebecca Warner's tender new novel, My Dad My Dog.

 

In her post on AlzAuthors.com Rebecca shares:

This is a work of fiction because my dad, who had Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s and diabetes, never lived with me.  Dad lived in a wonderful assisted living facility where he received exceptional care. I visited him every day, year in and year out, unless completely snowed-in or traveling. I took him to every doctor’s appointment and was involved in every decision about medical procedures, treatments, medications and therapy. Yes, as his Health Care Surrogate I had duties; but as his daughter, I acted out of pure love.


Please read her entire post by clicking here.

Wednesday, March 31, 2021

Fran Tilton Shelton Shares Her Story in Her Memoir, "No Winter Lasts Forever"

I found Fran Tilton Shelton's beautiful memoir in the top 100 on Amazon. If you are a spouse caregiver, this is a must read. Fran honors her husband, while revealing blunt honesty about his progression into Alzheimer's. 

Please join AlzAuthors in welcoming Fran Tilton Shelton, author of No Winter Lasts Forever; a memoir of loving Bob and loathing Alzheimer's.

 


Fran shares:

The journey with loved ones who have Alzheimer’s is grueling and all consuming-- physically, emotionally, socially, and spiritually. I quickly recognized that I wanted people to not only know about this unique journey and I also wanted people to know and remember aspects of Bob in his prime.

You may read the entire post here.


Wednesday, March 10, 2021

Judith Shone Writes Her Second Memoir About Caring for Her Love in "Did you Hide the Cookies?"

Please join me in welcoming back this week's featured AlzAuthor, Judith Shone,  with her second book, Did You Hide the Cookies?  The honesty Judith conveys in both books bring such comfort to all who are living the spouse/caregiver life.

 

Judith shares about her love:

I‘ve been his caregiver, his teacher, his mother, his protector, his friend, his cook, his housekeeper, his manager, his coach, his taxi driver, his secretary and confidant, and his partner.  I have felt sorrow and joy, desperation and relief, anger and love, all related to both our behaviours, our responses and the challenges we have passed through together.


You may read the entire post here.

Wednesday, February 24, 2021

Powerful Memoir by Deborah J. Cohan "Welcome to Wherever We Are" Deals with Emotional and Verbal Abuse and Caregiving for a Loved One with Dementia

I was so excited to connect with this week's featured AlzAuthor, Deborah J. Cohan, a professor of sociology and former counselor, author of the memoir Welcome to Wherever We Aresubtitled A Memoir of Family Caregiving and Redemption. Her book addresses difficult, yet important topics. 

Deborah writes: 

The book is a braided memoir detailing my role as a caregiver for my father who had been emotionally and verbally abusive to my mother and to me. So, really, I was writing about two weighty experiences that feel riddled with confusion---domestic violence and caregiving for a loved one with dementia. Both topics---abuse and dementia---are intense because they each carry so much stigma, shame, secrecy, and silence. The book is a meditation on what we hold onto, what we let go, how we remember others and how we’re remembered.


You may read the entire post on AlzAuthors.com by clicking here.

Wednesday, February 10, 2021

Garland Creighton Provides a Transparent Glimpse Into Fears and Triumphs of Alzheimer’s Caregiving

I'm so thankful to have encountered Garland Creighton and his memoir of caregiving for both parents. AlzAuthors features Coming Alongside this week.

Garland writes: 

Caregiving is not a spectator sport, you have to roll up your sleeves and get dirty - - - which is why I wrote Coming Alongside. It’s a transparent, engaging, and humorous glimpse into the joy, trials, and triumphs of life as a caregiver. The book provides perspective for the uninitiated and a front row seat for the unfamiliar.

You may read the entire post here


Saturday, January 23, 2021

You'll love LaBena Fleming’s Touching Memoir, I Love You Always

I'm so thrilled to find this lovely book by a Cleveland, Ohio author, LaBena Fleming; I Love You AlwaysIf you are a daughter caring for a mother, this is a detailed look at the progression of Alzheimer's and also gives honest insights into the emotions of the daughter-caregiver. I'm so pleased to meet you, LaBena. 

LaBena writes: 
My book tells the story of a woman who, although diagnosed with dementia, was determined to live until the age of ninety.  It is also a love story, showing what we can accomplish when we step outside of ourselves and work together for what’s in the best interest of our loved ones.  It serves as a resource, sharing valuable caregiver tips as well as other practical lessons learned along the way.  In addition, it is a message of faith.  I can’t imagine any journey that is more harrowing than that of dementia, and I don’t know how people navigate their way through it without a strong anchor.  My anchor was God.  Words of encouragement, faith, and hope are dispersed throughout the book by the inclusion of favored scriptures.

You may read the entire post here.